Before reading this, take a few minutes and listen to Pearl Jam’s “Better Man.”


This song haunts me.

Because I want to be a better man.

I want to be a better husband, a better father, a better friend, a better son and a better brother.


I have an ideal man in mind.
I think about him daily.

A man who…

… controls his own destiny.
… is not dependent upon anyone for anything.
… doesn’t owe a penny to anyone for anything.
… inspires the people he comes into contact with.
… gets his ass kicked and gets back up EVERY SINGLE TIME.
… who faces his fears.
… strives to make life better.
… is in control of his emotions.
… doesn’t judge anyone
… says what needs to be said with kindness.
… does what needs to be done with kindness.
… is always willing to go first.
… uses his thoughts and ideas to create the life he wants.
… can make you laugh when you really need a good laugh.
… lives his own life without worrying about what others think or say.
… has unlimited patience.
… doesn’t judge himself when he falls short of who he is trying to become.

The better man I want to become may not actually be attainable.

He’s an ideal.

He’s a goal to strive and work towards.

He’s someone to fight for, to sacrifice for and to suffer for.

I’m far from the better man I want to be.

Becoming a better man is a battle we must fight with ourselves.


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