A friend sent me this video three years ago:
(Warning this short scene includes adult language. If you’re easily offended, skip this post.)
This scene is from The Gambler.
I actually shared this video in this previous post back in 2015. This one scene from the movie has had a major impact on my life. I’ve watched this scene at least 100 times. I’ve thought about the loan shark’s advice in great detail. I’ve even completely changed how I think, invest and manage money due to THIS video. And on top of all of this, I just wrote a new book titled, “The Cashflownaire Plan” around the conversation in this video!
Here’s what I wrote in the intro to the book:
There IS a real secret to happiness. You won’t read about this secret in any self-help book. The secret to happiness is to put yourself in the “Position of Fuck You.”
In the scene, Wahlberg’s character is broke and needs money to gamble. He wants to borrow money so he can get back in the game. He visits a loan shark, who just happens to be played by the legendary John Goodman.
Loan Shark: ”I need to know if you’ve got the fucking brains to walk when it’s time to walk. People don’t, you know. Ball players that can’t play anymore. Assholes trying to maintain a standard of living not possible anymore. A lot of those around. I’ve seen people be up half a million dollars …”
Gambler: “I’ve been up two-and-a-half million dollars.”
Loan Shark: “What do you got on you?”
Loan Shark: “What did you put away?”
Loan Shark: “You get up two-and-half million dollars, any asshole in the world knows what to do. You get a house with a 25-year roof, an indestructible economy shitbox car and you put the rest into the system at 3 to 5 percent and you pay your taxes. That’s your base. Get me? That’s your fortress of fucking solitude. That puts you, for the rest of your life, at a level of ‘Fuck You.’”
Loan Shark: “Someone wants you to do something? Fuck You. Boss pisses you off? Fuck You. Own your house. Have a couple of bucks in the bank. Don’t drink. That’s all I have to say to anybody.”
Loan Shark: “Did you grandfather take risks?”
Loan Shark: “I guarantee he did it from a position of Fuck You.”
Loan Shark: “A wise man’s life is based around Fuck You. The United States of America is based upon Fuck You. You’re a king? You have an army? You have the greatest Navy in the history of the world? Fuck You.”
The United States was founded upon the position of “Fuck You.” Our grandparents and great grandparents arranged their lives from the Position of “Fuck You.”
Somewhere in the last 30 years, we’ve lost sight of this position. Sadly, we no longer strive to live a wise man’s life.
I define the “Position of Fuck You” as…
1. You’re not dependent upon anyone for anything.
2. You never have to work for money. This doesn’t mean you won’t work. It simply means you don’t HAVE to work.
3. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want.
If you lived in the Position of Fuck You, would you be happy? Damn straight, you’d be happy. You would own your life. You would have complete control over your life. You would only work when you wanted to work, doing things you really wanted to do.
This is the real secret to happiness.
Before moving on, notice what the Position of Fuck You doesn’t include: an eight-figure net worth, a 10,000-square-foot mansion, vacation homes, yachts or $100,000 cars.
You can have these things, but they’re not required.
The Position of Fuck You is 100% about your time.
A position in which you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. You don’t have to run off to work six days a week. You don’t have to climb the corporate ladder. You don’t have to kiss someone’s ass hoping for the promotion. You don’t have to sweat the big sale. You don’t have to wear a suit with a noose around your neck. You don’t have to inch along through rush hour traffic to and from work.
The Position of Fuck You allows you to have complete autonomy in your life, so that you can live each day as you wish.
AUTONOMY: “Freedom from external control or influence; independence.”
Please understand autonomy doesn’t come without work, risk, sacrifice or effort. It certainly does require all of these and more. We’ll get into what’s required later in this book.
However, when you do arrive in the glorious Position of Fuck You, you’ll never be dependent upon anyone for anything. More importantly, this position of strength cannot be taken away from you; you would have to give it away.
The book details a 3-step plan you can use to achieve the Position of Fuck You.
The book is a whopping $2.97 and you can get it here: